Friday, May 05, 2006

Shocking...

We are going to Edmonton soon for a little getaway. (waving at Corie and Kathy - can't wait!) Going to have fun, maybe get our van converted so Rob can drive it too. I also need to pick up some stuff at Ikea. A guard rail for Norah's bed, maybe some more kids dishes, and an umbrella for our outside table.


I DON'T want to go to Ikea. Can you believe that? I don't want to set foot in Ikea? Strange...
Woo hoo! made it to aquafit last night. It was so good to workout and not have stress on my joints - mainly my knees and ankles. I'm feeling pretty good this morning too, so I'm hoping to go again tonight. I really hope that my meds help with this joint pain - I'm seriously looking like an old woman the way I limp around some mornings.

Wednesday, May 03, 2006

Happy May 3rd

And look what we woke up to this morning. (and yes, I did get up today - at 8 no less)
May 3rd. A couple cms of snow. It's sitting at the freezing mark, with a wind chill. And there is our backyard, all ready for summer....

a reminder that we do live in the North.

Corie - I'm not laughing at your snow the other day anymore :)

Tuesday, May 02, 2006

I'm so crashed out after this weekend. I just want to stay in bed ALL day tomorrow. I wish Rob didn't have to work. Seriously, I want to be in bed all day. I'll take Ruby with me!

Monday, May 01, 2006

Health update

Alright, I have an update to my ongoing health concerns. I was right on with my self-diagnosis - Hypothyroid. My thyroid levels are way off, my TSH is super high, and my T4 is way low. Which explains pretty much every crazy symptom I've been having lately. From my excessive hair loss, to anxiety, joint pain, worsening of my carpal tunnel, irratibility and fatigue - oh and throw in unexplained weight gain too for fun. Mostly 'normal' post partum stuff, but blood testing confirmed that it's more than that, and not just in my head. So, now I'm on something that hopefully will help. My doc said that the good news about this is that, of all the diseases I could have picked to have, this one is on the easy side to work with.

All I know, is that it's really nice to know that I'm not just making stuff up. That some of what I've been feeling is more than just me being silly. Because that wouldn't be much fun.

Sunday, April 30, 2006

he's 4....


Isaac is 4 today. It's been a long day. And a lot of things to reflect on. I'll be back...
A follow up article on the Pearls. Hats off to Chris and Meggan for their honesty and bravery. *heart*

May this article help people to see how damaging and dangerous this 'method' of parenting can be.

Friday, April 28, 2006

What was I thinking?

Open mouth and speak before you think. Preschool pick up on Wednesday "Hey, it's Isaac's birthday on Sunday, I can bring cupcakes on Monday". Sure I can....but that means I have to make them! d'oh!

Cupcakes you say? simple. In theory. If I wasn't already doing the following:

-baking a cake for Sunday
-preparing the house for Isaac's birthday party, in case it rains
-preparing the back yard for Isaac's birthday party, in case it's sunny
-planning the menu for the party - because, it's for supper of course (thanks Rob...)
-taking all 3 kids to another birthday party on Saturday
-doing the groceries and other shopping for Isaac's party
-helping Rob assemble the new patio furniture (a girl loves to use her drill!)
-oh, and you know, taking care of 3 kids and cooking meals for the family too

wait, I also want to get to the trade fair this weekend too. Gotta love a chance to do some shopping. Maybe when the kids are napping tomorrow...because Rob's working all day. At least Rob will be home after church on Sunday and can help with the last minute stuff. Can't get too far ahead with the cleaning...the kids just mess it up again behind me!

And I'm still trying to get thank you notes out for baby gifts...and the baby is almost 6 months old! (how sad am I?) And I'm reading a book that's really making me think, and challenging lots of my thoughts...so I want to get back to reading that every chance I get. And I'm supposed to be scanning in a bunch of stuff for our church's 75th anniversary...

AND I'm supposed to sleep?

ack! forgot I still need to wrap the gift for tomorrow's party!

Wednesday, April 26, 2006

a touch of pride

There is a quote of mine that pops up from time to time on a website I frequent. I feel a little surge of pride when I see it. As if something I said at some point in my life resonated with someone, somewhere.

It's a nice feeling.

So why don't my kids listen to me more?
*grin*

Tuesday, April 25, 2006

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My mothering style?

Another quiz - your mothering style.

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“I want my children to feel they have an ally, someone who knows them completely. I want to be a haven for them.”

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Monday, April 24, 2006

the local paper

If you've ever watched "Corner Gas", you may have noticed the gentle ribbing at local newspapers. Ha! Well deserved, I say. Our local paper has picked up the quality lately, ever since the new editor took over. The old one, who wasn't there long, was French-Canadian, and often really mixed up her English phrases (collapsing like a deck of cards was one...um, I think you mean a house of cards because a deck of cards is already collapsed). However, there are a couple of local 'news' bits that seem to be immune from editing...of any sorts.

Take the Local News paragraphs, written by the wife of the late mayor. She often refers to herself as "me" in her column. So if you don't know who "me" is...like I didn't for a few months...you are lost. Anyhow, her column is really just an update on who is where in town. Who has taken trips and who is visiting and such. I just have to include a summary of this weeks "news"

"W and A. M went on a cruise. They went to St. Luke Mazatland and Port of Varta. They then made a circle in the ocean and ended up in Los Angeles. They had a very good time"
(good thing they had a good time, since it sounds like a shock to have ended up in L.A. And I'm assuming she meant they stopped in Cabo San Lucan, Mazatlan and Puerto Vallarta)

"I went to Lloydminster to help my mother celebrate her 90th birthday. A come and go tea was held in her honor." (so...who's your mom? apparently, we all know...and we spell honour with a *U* in Canada)

Those are just a couple of gems. I haven't even READ the whole paper yet....can't wait to add more.

Sunday, April 23, 2006

things to think about/pray about

We got the call the other day that we have been anticipating. Camp.

We were approached and asked to direct a week of camp already, but we turned it down. Just wouldn't work for us this year. Or really at all. Not easy to do camp, at this camp, with the kids in a directing position. Artaban was way easier for being able to juggle the kids and the site layout. So, Rob has been asked to be chaplain for a week. We expected that to come, and the camp week may actually be a good fit for our family. Apparently, despite us trying to keep our camp background on the 'down low', word is out! lol Our camp here just gets such icky bugs. Seriously ugly bugs. Need to discuss this more and pray over it. The going to camp part, not so much the bugs part ;)

We've (and I say we, because it was both of us) have been asked to consider another opportunity. I would love to do it, and am really honoured to be asked...but not sure if Rob is on board. It's more in my area of comfort and knowledge than it is his...but it could really be a good thing. So that also will take some discussion and prayer.

Right now, in order to get to church today, I need to run and shower, while Dora is entertaining 2 of the kids.

Happy Sunday!

Thursday, April 20, 2006

Earning it's keep

My much wanted, desired and hoped for Kitchen Aid stand mixer is a wonderful thing. It's getting used almost every day. We haven't bought any bread since the mixer came home, I've been making it all myself. I need to get my hands on some more flax seed soon, it's been such a nice addition to the whole wheat bread I've been making. Then there is the ice cream. That's tasty. I want to see if I can get vanilla beans in this town though, I think that would be richer than just vanilla extract. When I make ice cream, we also end up with me having to make merangues afterwards, as we use so many egg yolks for the mix. Lots of yumminess (is that a word? I don't really care, I'm using it anyway!) I can pretty much prep the bread dough in 5 minutes, without looking at the recipe now. Woo hoo for me!

Ruby is going through a mom-only phase. That is a little tough. And being in the sling walking around with me doesn't always cut it. I think we may be at the start of teething, as I remember that mom-clinginess preceeding her siblings dental arrivals. She's too young for teeth!!!

It's with each subsequent child that I realise just how fast the baby phases go. I'm one of those crazy women who loves newborns, and Ruby has just moved through all of this too fast. Add to that the fact that she may be our last baby, and I get kind of sad. :(

Tuesday, April 18, 2006

Another Easter has come and gone

Finally. Easter is over. Last week was LONG. Rob didn't have a day off, and the kids were wound up. I was stressed about life in general. Day trip to PA with Rob and Ruby. Mom was up for a couple of days. Saw the doctor. He frustrated me, I think he was projecting his wife's issues on to me (long story). But Easter Sunday came, we celebrated our Lord's victory over the grave and we had a lovely dinner. Mildred came and joined us for supper, as she did last year.

Isaac left with my mom yesterday for a couple of days at Nanny's house. The house is really quiet without him. :( I miss him, but he's having a blast. Norah is missing him too. We played in the backyard today, no jackets required it's so mild. I need to take the girls for groceries, but not until after naps now. I had my blood tests done today, I have a follow up appointment next Thursday. *sigh*

I'm rambling here, and not making sense. Off to have some lunch!

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

the best yet

Apparently, tonight's bread baking was my best ever, according to Rob. Woo hoo! Whole wheat flax seed bread. Very yummy if I do say so myself.

I will reserve comment on my doc appointment until later.

Tuesday, April 11, 2006

going to the doctor

Tomorrow, I'm going to finally see a doctor. First time since I had that renegade staple removed after Ruby's birth (that was, er, fun in itself). I've got something going on with me. Not sure what it is, but it's not normal. I was writing out my list of complaints the last few days. It's long. This can't be normal, and I can't ignore things hoping it will get better, because it's not. My mom is coming up to watch the kids for me, which will be nice. Rob is really tied up with work this week, and I need to get seen, I've been ignoring this too long. I don't think it's anything dire or serious, but it's there. Prayers would be nice if you think of me!

Sunday, April 09, 2006

there are some new shots of the kids up on their blog

Romance? Yes indeed!

Funny how your idea of romance changes after kids.

- quick kisses while the kids giggle over breakfast
- Rob getting up with the kids so I can stay longer in bed
- a hug while passing in the hall...and a small pair of arms around the knees joins in
- snuggling on the couch while nursing the baby
- deep conversations in the van while kids snooze in the back
- collapsing onto the couch together after kids are in bed
- sharing the day's highlights in bed at the end of the day, but whispering in order not to wake the sleeping baby next to you
- subtle conversation hints that go way over the kids heads

Sure it's not all candlelit dinners and walks along the beach - those aren't safe anymore with kids around! But it brings out a whole new dimension to the love you have with your spouse.

Saturday, April 08, 2006

my biggest flaw?

According to my mom, one of my biggest flaws as a mother is that I "have it too together". scratch head. I don't get that. The reason I'm having a hard time living in a new town is that I appear to have things so well put together that I don't need friends? What???

Seriously, has she not seen me with my kids? I know she's seen me on some off days, where I am upset that my kids are upset because *I* want to be the one having a temper tantrum. The days where I just want to scream, but don't so I don't wake someone up? The days where I complain about not being able to get anything done at all, despite having a husband that pulls more than his fair share of parenting and housework duties? The days where *my* needs take over Rob's time for working? If anything NOW is when I have had it the least together, where I have been the most dependant on others. Sure, I'm lousy at asking for help - especially when the people who have offered help with my kids are out to spank them *for me*...how nice.

I don't know. I don't think I look like I have things together, even though it's often way easier to deal with stuff in front of people, because I have to hold myself together (nobody wants to see a grownup have a temper tantrum...I think) But is that really why I haven't really been able to make friends and develop a support system here? I doubt it. Let's review. We moved here in February, it was snowy and hard to get out. One car, that Rob took with him. Then found out I was pregnant. Sick. Then spring came. Few places to take kids. The summer, everyone goes away. Then fall, very pregnant, 2 cars, but nowhere to go. Then new baby, and winter hits, darn near impossible to get out period. Combine that with a very close knit community that doesn't do well with outsiders, especially those who don't work with their husbands. Maybe *that's* why I'm having a hard time meeting people. I know my mom means well, but it really didn't help me at all.

Thursday, April 06, 2006

could be TMI - you've been warned

There are a couple of threads going on on GCM about birth control. Then again, there usually are a few on the go. But that's beside the point.

Birth control. What to do about it. I've got lots of opinions and convictions...but no answers. We have a rule in this house, in theory, that we make no major decisions about fertility while pregnant or in the first 6 months post-partum. I say in theory, because we've been trumped before. And the 6 month mark is coming up soon. We both feel too young to say 'that's it, we're done' and take drastic action. However, I need to get some things worked out before we could ever consider the pregnancy route again. Mainly heath - I am going to finally see a doctor this week, after far too long. Also, I just cannot endure another c-section in the near future. I am still dealing with the last one emotionally. I have had more than one panic attack while watching surgery go bad on Grey's Anatomy, and cannot watch ER at all. I freak out.

So that brings up the question of birth control. I refuse all hormonal methods, on the principle of the potential abortificient properties. You know, the information on the pill that you really, really have to read the small print of the package information on. Back in the day, before I went and looked things up, I blindly swallowed that little pill and thought all was well. But it wasn't. I could dwell on the possible babies that may have been conceived and not allowed to grow. I could freak out over the hormal junk I poured into my body. Instead, I will acknowledge that I didn't do all the research, have since been convicted otherwise and move forwards. So, that rules out the shot and the pill. We have also come to the conclusion that we have no desire to mess around with my body's chemistry just because. Too many risks.

Then there is the IUD. An option that has been pushed on me in the past. That's simply a no-go here. The ONLY time I can recall Rob starting a sentence with "no wife of mine..." was a statement in relation to the IUD. I understand that. He had a bad experience with one, apparently they don't make good room (or womb) mates. So that's out.

What's left. No much. The barriers. You know the usual suspects. Pros and cons all over. And depending on ecological breastfeeding? Meet my third child. I'm waiting for my copy of TCOYF to arrive from Amazon so I can get all brushed up on charting and temping while breastfeeding. Apparently abstinance works too, but that is *NO* option (see, I said TMI *grin*)

Well, we will just have to wait and see...

bah!

CBC radio is saying that we may get flurries overnight and into tomorrow. I don't believe it. They also said that our high today would be 5. It's 11 and sunny. Take that CBC. The Weather Network isn't calling for any precipiation at all. I like them better.

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

Wednesday

I've accomplished some things today. That's good.
- got the girls out and dressed in time to pick Isaac up from preschool
- went to the newly started walking group at the track. did 3/4 mile before Isaac was done...he was wet and muddy from falling in the huge puddle in the middle of the track. doh! At least it was really warm out.
- dealt with all 3 kids pooping in a 15 minute span
- made grilled cheese for 2, reheated some casserole for my lunch, cleaned up afterwards
- got one girl down for a nap, Rob came home and got the other one sleeping
- read the next chapter of Charlotte's Web with Isaac, and got in some great cuddle time
- folded 2 loads of laundry
- ran the dishwasher
Not bad for someone who feels really sick.

what I didn't do:
- groceries. That was a big one. Was going to get them before Isaac was done at preschool, but we ran out of time

At least Rob will do a quick run for me today. We are making ice cream tonight with the stand mixer...needed some ingredients for that. I'm now simmering up some apple cider for myself. I sure hope I'm feeling better soon.

Tuesday, April 04, 2006

It really is spring.

Now I don't want to get too ahead of myself, but spring is really, really here. Today it is 15 degrees (or 60 for my US readers). The lake in the backyard is drying up, but of course the lowest, wettest part of the yard is where the swing set sits.

I've baked my second batch of bread - honey oatmeal. We ate almost a whole loaf at breakfast, lightly toasted with raspberry jam. Rebecca, I would send you a loaf if it wouldn't get hard in the mail ;)

Tonight is our small group, so I'm off to tidy the house up before we eat supper.

Monday, April 03, 2006

do you smell that?

The fresh baked bread in my kitchen AND the fresh spring air outside?

Spring is here! The snow is almost all gone, except for those places where it's all crusty. Our front lawn is a muddy mess, our backyard a lake of goo. Fun. The sidewalks are mostly dry, and it's warm today. In fact, we have been one of the province's hotspots the last few days. Yay! Even the wind feels warm today.

Then there is the bread. My first time baking bread and it turned out great! I did a basic white loaf recipe, and we ate almost all of one of the loaves with lunch. Fresh hot bread with butter. Delicious. I wonder what I'm going to make next....

Sunday, April 02, 2006

home again

ahhhh, a break from town. A lovely visit with my mom. Conversation over wine, no cooking, new (and nice) home for the kids to play in, shopping,even a great trip to the portrait studio at Sears. I got a fantastic deal on my anniversary gift from Rob, even though I bought it myself. I am now the proud owner of a stand mixer. The very one I have been wanting for a few years now. Pistashio. 5 quart, 325 watt AND I got the ice cream maker attachment so I can make ice cream for Rob. I'm thrilled. A great trip. Aside from the head colds the girls and I have now. I feel awful. This would explain the crankiness they had. But they did sleep well most of the way home in the van!

Tuesday, March 28, 2006

that's sexy

Right now, Rob is outside, checking out my van. He's trying to see if he can fix the driver's side wiper before my road trip tomorrow. As Paris Hilton would say "that's so hot".

I wonder what else I can get him to do around the house if I tell him it's sexy....hmmm

Oh, and Isaac slept in until 9:50. He must be working that cold out.

***EDIT***

He fixed it. 6 months of a non-working drivers side wiper, and he fixed it in 10 minutes. I love him so much!

Monday, March 27, 2006

I am mom

and I wipe noses. Another round of illness - this time colds. They seem to be fast moving, which is nice. Isaac has mastered blowing his nose (finally!), and Norah is very good at identifying that she needs a wipe. That helps. All 3 kids napped on Sunday afternoon, which was beautiful, especially the half hour of overlap between them all.

Isaac and I have started reading Charlotte's Web at the start of his rest time. A chapter a day. So far so good. He was sad that the Avery in the book is not a little girl, like the Avery who comes to our small group on Tuesday nights. Tonight, he begged for more spinach salad during dinner. We went for a walk today as a family, and he managed to find the deepest puddles in town to wade in. He actually was able to dump water out of his boots when we got home!

2 more sleeps until Saskatoon! To see mom's new place. I'm going shopping! Please Mum, Old Navy, pics of the kids at Sears, Starbucks. I'm so excited. Seriously excited. I haven't had a Starbucks bar drink since...July. Can you believe that? Me. Since JULY??? Shocking, I know. I really wish my espresso machine worked. Wait, maybe I can get it fixed in Saskatoon! They have a place there....I'm calling in the morning.

Sunday, March 26, 2006

and it's snowing again. Rob reminded me that it did snow last year at the end of April. But come on already....spring needs to come! I am looking forward to the mud pit that will be our yards. At least, I think I am.

I really need to stop...

...thinking I'm getting ahead. Then something always jumps in my way.

Like this morning. I managed to get 2 kids fully dressed, one partially dressed, have breakfast, get all my Sunday School lesson stuff ready to go and get dinner in the crockpot. By 9:30. Woo hoo, right? Nope. Then I got in the shower. And fell out. Yes, I fell out of the shower. Not quite sure how it happened. But it did. And it hurt. I landed on the toilet, in two places. I am getting more and more sore as I type this. I also took the shower curtain liner down with me. I hope we have another one downstairs. Took some extra strength Motrin. Hope it kicks in soon. Really soon. I can't wait to see how this one bruises up.

Thursday, March 23, 2006

Long distance phone calls are nice. I like them.

Last night I had a strange one. From someone Rob and I had worked in youth ministry with years ago, but had to ask to step down. Who was now calling me for advice on some things. That's 2 things in one day where someone else thinks I'm wise! ;)

Anyhow, it got me to thinking how much I have changed in the last 7 years or so. How much my views on life and on God and faith have changed. And all for the better I think. Despite my bad days, I think I like myself better now. I think I'm really becoming who I'm supposed to be.

My online friend Rebecca is blogging now. She really has some wonderful, but hard to read, things to say on discipline. I like her blog's look (wonder why, hee hee)

Tuesday, March 21, 2006

I uploaded a cute video of Norah dancing on my kids blog.

Sunday, March 19, 2006

Nighttime reflections

There is something so wonderful about bedtime. The kids and ours. I love being up last, after everyone has gone to bed. I get to shut down the house for the night. I turn off the main lights, turn on the hall light and check on the kids. I go into Isaac's room and tuck him in. He's looking so much like a little boy now, he's lost all that baby look. Has it really almost been 4 years since he arrived and changed our lives so much? I usually end up turning him around in bed so he's not hanging half off the bed. A quick kiss on the head and stroke of his hair and I'm out the door.

Into Norah's room, where I check the temperature on the space heater - she sleeps so much better in a warmer room. I almost always have to cover her up, and pull her doll out from under her. Soon she will be sleeping in the bed instead of the crib. Has she really gotten that big? Norah has such a sweet little snuffly snore when she's lying on her back. She's a light sleeper, and it's so hard not to play with the curls that fan out on the mattress. I just love her curly hair and it's such a wonder to me as mine is anything but curly.

Then after a tooth brushing and face washing, I'm turning out the hall light and heading to our room. I love climbing into bed at the end of the day. Ruby is usually flaked out on my side of the bed, and between her and Rob I can usually find some room. It's so cute to see both of them sleeping - they look so alike that way. Well, except for the beard. ;)

The end of the day brings peace to what are often long and crazy days. Rob and I get chance to check in on our day's highlights and have a couple of laughs before we sleep. I love getting to tuck our children in before sleeping. I can see them at their most peaceful, their little faces flushed with sleep and cozy blankets, hair all over the place. It brings such joy to me to have these moments at the end of the day. No matter how busy or wild the day was, bedtime is a reminder that tomorrow is fresh and ready to take on. That we have spent a day living, laughing and loving together.

Saturday, March 18, 2006

ug

incident with a parishoner at church tonight during our St. Patricks' Stew Supper. I'm steaming. And I don't quite know how to handle it.

I hope I can sleep well tonight. This sort of thing makes me toss and turn.

Friday, March 17, 2006

My sister Kendra and her new dog, Acadia.


Is it just me, or is that dog wearing a dress?

Edit - According to my sis, the dress is part of the obedience classes they are in... She assures me she is no Paris Hilton. The dog has a sweater, but for temperature reasons only. :)

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Thursday, March 16, 2006

I have some days where I feel so strong and capable. Nothing throws me off, and I am able to handle anything life throws at me - even if it's big. I like those days.

I don't always have those days. Like yesterday.

However, it's amazing what an unexpected package in the mail can do for one's spirits.

(thanks to Corie and Kathy)

sick, sick, sick

This story about a child's death totally disturbed me. Sick. Following Michael Pearl's *wisdom* for raising children - and a death results. To be honest, with the garbage that man preaches, I'm shocked there aren't more reported deaths. It's pure poison. I cannot in any way imagine Jesus hitting a child, much less with a plumbing supply line or a hot glue gun stick. What happens when those *tools* don't have the desired effect...do you spank/hit with something bigger? It's just sick and wrong. NOWHERE in the bible does it spell out a *how to* on spanking...so why do so many *experts* claim to have the right way that God would have us raise our children? Oh the thoughts I have on that....
why won't Norah nap? Seriously. That's 2 days in a row. Seriously.

Just ordered a new car seat from Sears. I hope it's what we need. I'm not sure if it's going to be for Isaac or Norah yet. We will see where it fits better in the van. I really hope it's a good fit for what we need, because it wasn't too pricey (even on sale right now).

It's snowing. Again.

Saturday, March 11, 2006

that was a scare

Rob was supposed to go to an ordination service today. It was about a 90 minute drive from here (in other words, really close by). It's been snowing for over 24 hours straight and it looked icky out. In fact, my mom, who is supposed to be driving here now, is in Red Deer waiting for the roads to clear up. In any case, Rob leaves at 11:45. Service is at 1:30. Lots of time. I call him at 1:15 when I haven't heard from him. He's cutting out, but I can make out "I'm coming home, roads bad". Great I think...but how far did he get if he's turning around?

I wait not so paitently. Getting worried as I'm checking the weather network and the road conditions. Finally, he walks in the door at 3. He's cold. He THEN breaks the news to me that his drive was somewhat eventful. He spent a half hour in a ditch. He hit a big ice patch, managed to lose control of the car, and ended up in a ditch about 20 minutes south of Loon Lake. Wasn't even speeding. Was very grateful that I insist on a couple's CAA membership and called for a tow truck. He waited, stuck in the snow until 'Taylor from the Baptist church' tows him out. Car didn't handle so well on the way home, with all the snow under it.

I'm so thankful it wasn't worse. It really could have been. Much worse. Especially since only 4 people drove past him in a half hour. I'm thankful for cell phones, for problems happening early in the trip, for soft snow, for safety. Thankful he's ok.

Silly boy though. Took off his winter boots before leaving and had to be in the car with only his dress shoes. Cold toes.

Why I am a SAHM

A few people I know right now are debating the return to work or stay at home question. It got me to thinking about the reasons why I decided to stay home.

I had always considered being a SAHM. It was something that Rob and I had discussed way before kids. Yet I wasn't totally sure that it was the choice I wanted to make. I had either been working or in school since I was 15 and was used to working. It was hard to imagine my life without a paycheque, without being able to put a dollar value on my time. Not contributing financially to the household.

Then I discovered I was expecting Isaac. I had just graduated from college with my PR diploma. I finally had earning potential beyond my retail management background. But I wasn't sure that I wanted to go that route.

I fell into a great job that touched on lots of my skills, but was still not super demanding, and they loved me. As in, constant ego boosting comments and recognition...then again, I was replacing a woman who by all accounts was totally incompetent. Apparently doing something right and without complaining went a long way. Every day, I felt appreciated and valued - and I had a lot of fun with some of the women in the office. My supervisor was almost family, really, almost family - she was married to my cousin's husband...which is how I ended up there in the first place.

It was also in that job that I started to really think about my options after childbirth.

Most of the women in my office were working moms. Some of them had kids in high school and beyond, but most had kids under age 10. And that's where things got interesting. I got to talk to lots of them about their choices - my desk was a common hangout. I asked them questions, they offered me their thoughts and opinions. They revealed a lot more than they told me with their words.

There was C. Who told me lots about her girls, but who had lots of fights with her DH on the phone as to who's turn it was to leave work early to pick up a sick 4 year old. A, a single mom, who had no family support and juggled a preteen who didn't believe she needed daycare anymore. J, who was in the middle of a divorce, and fought back tears as she told me about how amazing it was to give birth to her sons, how spiritual that moment was, and how much she hated to leave them to return to work. But that her ex-DH insisted she work, and that was one of the big factors in their divorce. J, who wanted so much to move up the corporate ladder. She cried every time she talked about her not quite 2 year old DD, but told me how she had to harden her heart when her DD wanted her home because she needed to become a manager. She also fought her DH over who "got stuck home" with that DD when she was sick. P, who had a daughter my age, who encouraged me to be home "when the babies are tiny, that's sacred time you never get back".

But the clincher was T. Her dd (age 4 at the time) has the same name as me. T would have to travel often, and work long hours. To be fair, she did work varied hours in order to be able to help out at her dd's preschool, but she was away from home quite a bit. Her dd started telling T that she wished she could be Kristin S (me) when she grew up, so she could spend lots of time with her mom. Cute story, but it really got me thinking. *I* was spending more time in the week with T than her dd was. Especially when you factored in how much time they spent running around on the weekends, fitting in activities, errands and get-togethers. They almost never spent time together, alone as a family. T was also one of the many moms who told me that they 'had to work, they needed it, to be away and keeping busy".

I realised then that I wanted more for my kids. I'm not saying that I think any of those moms weren't good mothers, not at all. But it sure is hard to fit everything in around a work schedule. I wasn' t having this baby to have somebody else raise them, to spend the hours they were awake with someone who didn't love them like I did. It wasn't about what I wanted, it was about what was best for my baby. To be cared for by a parent who loves them. I thought back to my childhood and how, sure I liked spending time at the babysitters (my mom worked part time) but I sure prefered being home with my mom or dad. Why should my child not get my best hours of the day?

I knew then that my decision was made. Not easy, for sure. Hard to give up the paycheque, the feeling of contributing to the family. The great feeling of a job well done, and being thanked for my effort. Then Rob said "but you will be contributing. You will be raising our child". He was right. I didn't want to be juggling daycare and work. Bargaining with Rob as to who was more able to take a day to be home with a sick child. Fixing dinner in a rush after a busy day. Trying to squeeze errands into a Saturday, or maybe Sunday afternoon after church. Hearing about my child's milestones from a daycare provider. Paying somebody to spend their days with my precious, wanted, and planned for child. I knew that my heart was at home.

Thursday, March 09, 2006

another funeral. Rob is meeting with the family right now. I think its on Monday. Monday funreals are hard on Rob - Tuesday is easier, more time to prepare. Monday makes for a go-go-go weekend. In the year that Rob's been working here, he has done more funerals that his predecessor did in 5 years! I guess his 4 months of interning at St. Philips, with all the funerals there, was worth it - even with how much *I* hated it there.

Yesterday was women's day

And I didn't do anything to mark it. I heard a lot on the radio about Canada-wide rallies over the scrapped national child care plan. The Conservatives threw the plan out that the Liberals had signed with provinces before the election. People are upset. And I don't blame them.

As a stay at home parent, who is fully committed to having a stay at home parent, I really love the idea of getting a potential extra $100 per month per child under 6. But it's really just a supplement to the child tax credit. Word is that lower income families won't get the full $100 per month either. As a family who is technically considered low income, I really appreciate our child tax credit every month - now with 3 kids, it covers my van payment and insurance on both vehicles. It helps our financial picture immensely. More would be nice.

However, extra money in my pocket doesn't do much besides help me buy more stuff. I don't need childcare. But lots of people do. For whatever reason they need it, they need it. Quality, well priced child care is needed. I could be of the opinion that since I don't need child care, there is nothing wrong with for-profit, pricey child care. But I'm looking at the big picture. For me it's not just about lower priced childcare, it's availability of that child care. There simply aren't enough spaces for people to put their children into childcare - especially in more rural areas. $100 a month does nothing for you if you don't have anywhere to have your child cared for!

Much as I believe in staying at home, and know it's best for our family, I know that not everyone is in that place. Single parents usually need to work, there are lots of reasons why people feel that both parents need to work and bring in income. For me, it's not a SAHM vs. working mom thing - it's about quality childcare at afforadable prices, with available spaces for those who need childcare, whatever their reasons. Sure, I love the idea of having more money in my pockets, but in the bigger picture, is that the best option?

I don't know. We made the decision for me to be home, that we would raise our children ourselves and not pay some *expert* to do it. Not everyone has made that decision, or is able to make that choice because of circumstances. I would rather that the children of those parents, either through circumstances or personal choice, have quality childcare.

Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Tim Hortons in the news...

2 stories on Timmy's today. There's the roll up the rim scandal and then the newest location
Strange stuff...

So it's not a sex toy...

Monika ordered something for me online. Claiming it will "spice up" things in our town. I got worried for a second...but she assures me it's not a sex toy. (giggle, snort, cough). 4 to 6 weeks to wait though...I'm SO bad at waiting. So bad. drumming fingers on countertop

I love online shopping...almost as much as in person shopping. I was really excited to get a package in the mail yesterday. A plug for Please Mum clothing here. I bought the girls matching dresses and a shirt for Isaac, all on clearance. Got the cheapest shipping - $4 for the whole thing. Was supposed to take 7 - 10 days. Got here in 3 business days. Woo hoo! And it's cute too. Still waiting on my fancy smelling wool wash products....brown sugar and blackberry/vanilla. Yummmy.

Monday, March 06, 2006

upcoming excitement

So much to look forward to! My mom will be here soon for a brief visit before she moves into her new place. Mary and Garth are talking about coming in May. Jinx, Valerie and Katie may come in May or June too. We're planning a getaway with Corie, Scott and Tyler, and Kathy, Greg and their boys (who I can't wait to meet in person!) We just got an invite to Skye and Chris' wedding...but won't be able to go. Into Vancouver for Sean and Leslie's wedding in the summer, and hopefully a chance to meet up with Sarah and watch Paisley and Norah play. Lots of things coming up to get excited about. Babies to meet, marriages to begin, people to catch up with... people to meet *in real life* too. I'm so glad there are so many events on the horizon.

Sunday, March 05, 2006

d'oh!

Want to feel stupid? Forget to renew your husband's car insurance. The Camry is still covered, but need to renew the policy. Oh, and it's in my name, so I get to drive Isaac to preschool tomorrow and go make sure it's taken care of. I really had better remember to do this when the van insurance comes up again in July.

I blame the insurance company. If they didn't send the letters out reminding you so early, you may actually remember to do it! ;)

that was fun! x-post from kids blog

Bit of excitement here today. After church, the kids and I went to the movies! Curious George was playing at our local theatre, with a 1pm matinee. Went with C and her 6 year old daughter L (wouldn't have done it alone!) It was really great, actually. Isaac had a kids pack of popcorn and pop and was thrilled to sit and eat it all - except for the part he dropped on the floor. Norah was so excited by the big screen and music and jumped up and down in her seat for the first 15 minutes straight. Ruby snuggled, nursed and slept. Only a couple of rough moments. When Norah's seat kind of collapsed on her - you probably know what I mean by that - and she got stuck, and Ruby was nursing so it was hard to get her out. Isaac losing popcorn, and Norah finding it. Norah's sippy cup rolling under 2 rows of seats in front of us. Ruby crying for about 3 minutes. Other than that, it was great. Lots of fun. The movie was good too. Norah especially loved dancing to the music during the credits.

Saturday, March 04, 2006

and it came to me then, that every plan, is a tiny prayer to Father Time....

stuck in my head, that album is. Every song. Reflections on life, aging, changing and death. And it dances around in there.

Friday, March 03, 2006

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Thursday, March 02, 2006

one advantage to living in the country

Fresh farm eggs...lovely for baking with.
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Lest you work out anything in advance

Arrggghhh. Here's the issue - 3 kids need carseats. But my original gameplan isn't going to work.

Ruby is in the Evenflo infant seat (which I hate, and should have returned when we bought it for Norah last year, because I'm not 100% happy with how it fits in the car)
Norah and Isaac are both in Britax Marathons.

Isaac was going to go into the Graco turbo booster when Ruby outgrew the Evenflo, and Ruby into the Marathon. Simple, right? Well, Ruby is growing so quick, that she's almost at the end of the weight limit for the Evenflo. It's good to 22 pounds (which is why we picked it, but I still don't like it) She's at 19 and change. She's getting heavy to carry in the bucket. I don't really like bucket seats, but they are so handy until the baby can sit up on their own. So, I could move her into the Marathon rear-facing.

Here's where it gets tricky....Isaac is technically too light for the turbo booster. We have it already, it's in Rob's car. We got a great deal on it, which was nice after the spendy Marathons. But it's for 40 pounds plus. Isaac has topped out at 36 - 37. The turbo boosters in the States are for 30 pounds plus. But Canada's regulations state harnessed seat until 40 pounds. So he's too light. He does use it occasionally when Rob will drive him to preschool in the Camry.

So I don't want to buy a new carseat. I don't want to buy a transitional seat that will, in essence, only be used for a couple of months. The Marathons are good to 48 pounds forward facing, so the girls can stay in them for years. I don't want a car seat that can be used as a booster, because they aren't rated as well as a booster on it's own. If Isaac was big enough for the turbo booster, I could get away without buying a booster until Norah is 48 pounds...and that would take at least 2 years. I like kids in 5 pt harnesses instead of belt-positioning boosters for safety and all, but I want Isaac in that booster already.

So, should I just start stuffing him with ice cream until he hits 40 pounds? Or should I consider him 40 pounds when fully dressed? Rob has pretty much said that he has no desire to spend $140 before tax on a seat that we really won't use more than a couple of months at best. Isaac does seem to be in another growth stage (as seen by his pants all of a sudden being too short). I'm just frustrated....and I want my kids to be safe.

Tuesday, February 28, 2006

baby legs

and she wouldn't look at the camera
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baby legs!


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Katie - our newest family member

New niece Katie...looks a lot like her mom.
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Monday, February 27, 2006

My baby legs arrived...pics to follow. :)

and for the record - my sillies have been thoroughly shook out this afternoon. Raffi on repeat will sink into the brain. Not sure I'll ever be the same again.

Sunday, February 26, 2006

I'm an aunt again!

Got the phone call this morning. Jinx and Valerie had a baby girl at 10:30 last night. 8lbs 14 oz. As yet without a name - think they were expecting a boy (so were we). Lucky for them Ruby already has lots of hand-me-downs to send. Welcome baby!

***Katie Michele*** Katherine Michele - I'm not totally sure about the spelling, will update when I know for sure. Katie. I like it.

Saturday, February 25, 2006

it was such a nice day. Then I got off the phone with Corie after the kids finished their baths...and all heck broke loose. Isaac was playing "snow shovel" with the dustpan in the kitchen, and managed to whack Norah in the mouth. As he was backing up from the 'scene of the crime', he tripped and landed on Ruby in the bouncy seat. After calming down both girls, while Rob dealt with our little klutz, I manged to drop Ruby's antibiotic bottle on the floor and spill most of what was there. Then Norah got the top of her (full) bottle off, and there was milk everywhere. Ok, that was a rough half hour!

I'm currently enjoying the silence of 2 kids in bed, and one nursing on my lap.
It looks messy, but it's tidy.  A dresser and bookshelf...freshly

washed and folded cloth fluff for my babies bottoms.  *sigh* what

a lovely sight.
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Friday, February 24, 2006

Today I will learn and master a back carry with my wrap. Norah wants to be carried, and she's really heavy in the sling right now. I will do it!

EDIT - it's really hard to back carry when your toddler won't be still. I did, however, master a front carry with Ruby.

Yay, Monika is blogging now too. Yet another one won over to the blog side...hee hee hee

Thursday, February 23, 2006

check out my kids blog to see Ruby's new skill. She started tonight. It's great.

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

on the topic of nail biting...

Isaac went to preschool without a pull up on today. Just underwear. I pick him up in an hour.....

EDIT!!! DRY!!!

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

it's a small world

Rob was doing a funeral today in a village part way between here and Loon Lake. The deceased's nieces were there, one from BC. Surrey to be exact. Her and Rob are talking. Turns out, they know Valerie's parents, and she attends church with them. Valerie is married to Rob's brother, for those who aren't in the loop with my extended family. Not only is Valerie a great sister in law...she is now officially 6 days overdue with my niece or nephew. *excitedly chewing my fingernails in anticipation*

Girls are doing great today. Although, I often have to remind Norah that I am not a scratching post as she rubs her face across me. All three kids took naps today, and started within 3o minutes of each other...I had a nice break. A go on the treadmill, a shower and some quality message board time. Lovely.

Monday, February 20, 2006

Go, Canada, Go

Women's gold medal hockey game on now. We're up 4 - 0 to Sweden at the end of the second period. I'm excited for women's hockey that the final isn't USA and Canada for a change - first time since 1991 that it hasn't been those 2 teams. And I'm even more excited that we're winning!

I have an earache today. No fun. But the girls are doing better today. Norah is back to running around and giggling at *nothing*, Ruby is cooing and singing all the time. It's lovely.

Saturday, February 18, 2006

and the pox marches on

sick girls. one with an eye infection that I'm convinced is a pox on her eyeball. the other with an ear infection. took me 3 kids to get an ear infection. not bad... one trip to emergency after a phone call to the provincial health line to see if it was worth it. I hate that we only have emergency care available on weekends. At least one of my favorite doctors was in, he ran my spinal during Ruby's birth.

So glad we got them checked out though. Norah didn't sleep much at all last night. She kept trying to scratch and was feverish and hard to settle. I was up most of the night with her cuddled on the couch. So grateful for the Olympics on late night tv. Ruby screamed for about 3 hours straight last night, she's never done that before...I think she cried more last night than she has in her entire life combined. After the trip to the hospital, we managed to get naps out of the girls. Especially after they had a dose of tylenol and benadryl. Ruby has barely nursed today, and I'm really not enjoying that.

Baked cookies with Isaac today, oatmeal cranberry and raisin, with added flax seed. yummy. I'm feeling so badly that Isaac is getting ignored in all this sickness. It's a good thing he's all into playing hockey in the basement. Helped when I had both girls crying on my lap while Rob was out at an appointment.

7:20 and Norah is asleep already. She was begging to go to bed. I just hope she sleeps better tonight. Ruby is flaked out on my lap. Isaac is dancing around the kitchen while we listen to music. Tomorrow, Isaac will go to church with Rob and get to go to Sunday school. Another Sunday missed. At least I will get to listen to the Vinyl Cafe at noon.

Friday, February 17, 2006

more babies...

Angela and Lionel had their third. Matthea (spelling?), aka, Thea. Feb. 5. She was 7lbs 10oz - I think that's what she said. Emergency c-section...in Vernon. She was 4 weeks early and they were visiting family. I can't imagine having that happen. But then again, I don't go into labor at all on my own it seems. Apparently, baby flipped to transverse and her water broke. Yikes. I just can't imagine that scenario...

What is it with so many c-sections with the people I know these days? Of the 8 people having babies (including me) in my circle of friends and family, we are so far running 4 c-sections to 2 non-medicated vaginal births. Really hoping and praying that the next 2 aren't surgical....

Thursday, February 16, 2006

see that? the ice on our window? we had that on all our
windows this morning. about 1.5 inches tall. why do we have
ice on the windows? the inside of the windows?




because it's -36 outside, plus a windchill of -49! There is a
wind chill warning for the province today...arctic winds. Arctic
winds...I'll say.
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I hate chicken pox

and this photo doesn't even capture how bad it is.



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Wednesday, February 15, 2006

chicken pox. round 2. and it's ugly. Ruby is covered, Norah isn't looking bad. But Ruby...my little baby...oh, it's bad.

Sunday, February 12, 2006

Home alone with the kids tonight. Rob's at a pre-funeral prayer service. Older 2 are bathed and having bedtime snack. Baby is napping in bouncy seat. We're all in the kitchen after a great game of tag up and down the hall. I start cleaning up the kitchen from dinner. Death Cab for Cutie's Plans is playing. Not a good album to listen to when your beloved husband is dealing with the realities of life and death. "What Sarah Said" just brought me to tears. Just the other day, Rob was telling me about that time spent in a hospital room with someone who was dying, and how that song really captures so much of that time. Combine that with the reality of losing my grandmother just before Ruby was born and I just lost it. Started crying. Thinking about how one day, maybe even sooner than I think, people I love will die. At that point, Isaac looked concerned and asked me why I was sad and how he "could make you be very happy again". Hugs fix a lot. Still, it's hard to reach a point in life where you really know that there comes an end point to life here on earth. Feeling a little deep and thoughtful tonight...and wanting to give extra hugs to my kids.

Saturday, February 11, 2006

MY LIFE IN FOURS - as per Dana's tagging

Four jobs I have had in my life - only including the paid ones
1.Admin Assistant, Communications department (you know, what I went to school for...)

2.Program Assistant Camp Artaban

3.Starbucks Assistant Manager (among other fun jobs there)

4.Home Depot cashier

Four movies I can watch over and over:
1. Princess Bride

2. Pride and Prejudice (A&E Colin Firth version)

3. Ferris Bueller's Day Off

4. Anne of Green Gables

Four places where I have lived:

1. middle of nowhere, Saskatchewan

2. Vancouver, BC

3. Suburb of Montreal, QU

4. Waverley, NS

Four TV shows I love to watch

1. Arrested Development

2. Grey's Anatomy

3. Backyardigans

4. Corner Gas (I live in SK, so I get the jokes!)

Four places I have been on vacation
1. England, Scotland and Ireland (one trip, one month)

2. Montreal and Halifax...one trip

3. Cancun

4. Calgary

Four websites I visit daily
1. Xanga

2. Gentle Christian Mothers

3. my Hotmail

4. CBC...gotta vote for the national playlist!

Four of my favorite foods
1. Sushi...can't get it here

2. greek salad

3. cake - not chocolate though

4. Thai food...can't get that here either

Four places I'd rather be right now

1. In bed

2. in a cleaner house

3. in a smaller size of pants

4. Camp Artaban in the summer, at night, mug of coffee, porch of dining hall


I tag...

1. Rosie Took
2. ComfyMama
3. GentleMama2Mine
4. Mary and me

Friday, February 10, 2006

Blog cloud...cool

sad

We got a phone call yesterday that a member of our church died. She hasn't been attending services because she was rather old and living in the Lodge in town, but she was there for Christmas Eve. It was unfortunate that her husband couldn't be there on Christmas Eve with her (he had the flu).

Anyhow, Rob loved going to visit her and her hubby at the Lodge. John and Muriel were 2 of his favourite people to visit. They are just so cute. Back when we rented The Notebook, Rob said that the couple reminded him of John and Muriel. They were living in the Lodge, but she was more ill and frail than he was. They would hold hands all the time, and loved to be together, even though they had separate rooms. Muriel passed away in her sleep yesterday. Rob went by to see John, and John was so happy that he had gotten to say goodnight and tuck her into bed the night before. John said that he had a feeling that something was different that night. Christmas Eve was their 64th Wedding anniversary, and they had been together since they were 15. Can you imagine? They had 8 children, 7 boys and one girl, and were very long time members of our church. In fact, the church started on John's parent's farm in their living room, and their family is much loved in these parts. Our church has it's 75th anniversary this year.

Rob is doing the funeral on Monday morning. They were originally going to do the service on Tuesday...but that's Valentine's day, which would be a really sad day to bury your spouse. Anyhow, Rob is feeling a touch sad today about it. Don't blame him.

Thursday, February 09, 2006

I want to get some of these shirts.
how exciting that the snowplow came by today...and plowed the street in such a way that we don't have to shovel snow at the end of the driveway!

and how sad is it that I'm really excited by that? :) But seriously, anyone who curses the snowplow will understand the beauty of this action.

You know what else makes me happy? Late night long distance phone calls from friends, especially when I get to hear their new baby sounds in the background. Also sharing in the joy and wonder of new motherhood with that same friend.

Wednesday, February 08, 2006

changes

I've created a new blog for my kids. Mainly to keep family up to date on stuff. Didn't want to let them into here, so I'm at liberty to whine about things that I don't need them to know about :) So if you want to keep up to date on my kids, follow the link on the sidebar.

careful what you wish for...

Apparently my cry for more snow has been heard. It's snowing like stink out there right now. As in, it started less than an hour ago and we've already had about 2 cms. I'm so glad Rob is doing a grocery run and picking up hot chocolate mix, this is the kind of day for a hot chocolate. It's really pretty, if hard to see in.

I'm going to order some BabyLegs really soon, I'm so excited. Just need to pick the colours/patterns I want. Next week, I'll probably order them, after we get Rob's cheque and know how much we can spend. Norah has been wearing her new wool longies around the house all the time - she loves them. I love cloth diapes and all the fun stuff that goes with them!

Monday, February 06, 2006

so...anyone know...

what it feels like to come down with chicken pox? anyone???
Our fresh snow...and my messy van, which hasn't moved since Friday.  Gotta love being house bound and contagious





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This was nice. A man that Rob has been visiting in his home and taking eucharist to just came by and cleared our driveway with his ATV and snowplow attachment. Nice.

Both girls are napping, and Isaac is avoiding it - even though he really needs one. I'm feeling rather lousy today myself.

The snow looks like rolled fondant icing on a cake, it's just beautiful. Don't want to walk outside and spoil the effect in the yard. The sun is out and making everything sparkly. The days are definitely longer now - the sun was up before 9am today.

As of tomorrow, we have officially been in this house one year. Wow. Better hang some pictures.

Sunday, February 05, 2006

well it's about time!

We finally got a nice dumping of snow. 6 inches or so. Nice. Now the sun is out and it's really mild...I maybe can take the kids out for a walk. If only I didn't feel quite so sick myself. :(

Ok - we got about 15 minutes of snow play in before Ruby needed to nurse and Norah pooped. It was beautiful snow...light and fluffy and cloud-like. Rob just got home and is shovelling out the driveway so he can get the car in. Even with the snow tires, he was spinning out. Norah still can't walk in the snow well, but she did enjoy it. Isaac enjoyed sweeping the snow off my van. :)
Norah has a lovely new doll sling. She loves carrying around her
babies in it. Thanks so much to Sarah (Rosie Took) and her SIL
for getting this to us. We love it!

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It's a boy!

Linden Paul arrived February 2 at 3:50 am. He weighed in at 8lbs
9oz and is 22 inches long. He's gorgeous and I can't wait to meet
him!



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Friday, February 03, 2006

Red, itchy spots have infiltrated our home. They are slowly, but surely, creeping up Isaac's body. Leaving their marks on his torso, face and arms. Norah is showing some signs of a cold, but it could be more than that...

DARN CHICKEN POX!

Our house is open for anyone who wants to come for a pox party. I'll provide snacks, juice and coffee :)

Tuesday, January 31, 2006

I get it

now I get it. Why I can't be open with anyone at church as to why I'm feeling the way I am about living here. I'm not totally unhappy, because my hubby and kids are here. But I'm not happy about the town, and how the fitting in process is going. And I can't really be open with the people at church about it. Because it would seem like it's their fault. I can't tell people who have lived here for all or most of their lives that I hate their town and it's not friendly because a) it wouldn't be productive and b) it is because of them that we're here. bummer. can't be real.

Monday, January 30, 2006

Almost a year!

A year ago we were already out of our old place and staying at my mom's for a couple of days. We were almost fully gone from Vancouver. We were a family of 4. We had no idea what the next year would hold. We were excited about the journey ahead. We were learning how much God could change our hearts.

Now, a year later. We are here. It's been a fast year, even if the days have been long. We are a family of 5. We have been stretched in ways we never thought about before we moved. We own a second vehicle. We have hosted house guests. We have mourned the loss of a family member. We realise how much we miss about living in a city. We spend less money, because there isn't anywhere to spend it. We see how God can bless our lives in ways we never thought would be blessings. We realise how hard it can be to make friends. We miss parts of our old lives, yet love parts of the new one. We realise how isolating this journey has been and how much worse it would be if we didn't have each other.

I have learned lots of things this year. I have learned I am capable of more than I ever thought. I am stronger than I realised, yet more fragile in other ways. My children have taught me so much and stretched me in so many ways. Their existance is a blessing beyond anything I could have hoped for, and I am beyond grateful for their presence in my life. I am thankful for naps. For giggles. For cuddles. For sloppy, wet and fish-faced kisses. For tears that require a mom's touch or kiss to fix. For the way they are a perfect blend of their father and I. For a husband who is an amazing father, and loves his children and isn't afraid to play with them.

This has been quite a year.

Sunday, January 29, 2006

Sunday issues...

I hate Sundays. Really. I've said it. Hate them.

Church starts at 11 am. This is a sucky time. Really sucky. We are never finished before 12, I'm not home until closer to 1. This throws our entire day off. Right now, it's 3:30 and Norah isn't napping. She's totally tired, but still awake and playing peekaboo with herself in her crib. Her nap is completely thrown off on a Sunday. Isaac is in his room having quiet time, but he's tired too and won't nap. We miss the nap window on Sundays. It sucks. Especially that Norah gets tired while we're at church, so is often cranky there. No fun.

Then there is the fact that I'm alone until around 4:30. Rob doesn't get back from St. Georges until then. So that doesn't help with getting the kids to nap - if he were home, we could juggle the girls to help them both sleep. Because the service at St. Georges is at 2, it's an even worse time for the kids. And if the drive were a touch longer it would be easier, because they could sleep on the way. As it is, they are almost asleep when we get there, or have just fallen asleep. But it's too cold to stay in the van and let them sleep these days. And don't even get me started on how challenging the service there can be, with nowhere to take them and no bathrooms.

To add to it all, tonight, Rob has the service at the Lodge to do at 6:30. And because nobody is napping, we probably won't be going. Which is a shame, because all the seniors really enjoy seeing the kids when we have gone along.

Then Rob gets home. He's tired and needs to decompress, and I just need his help to keep the kids out of my hair so I can cook dinner, feed the baby, and all that stuff.

I'm tempted to stop going to services on Sunday. But it's what we do. It's also one of the only things TO DO all week. I like to get out and maybe have a conversation with another adult. Isaac enjoys Sunday school, at least he doesn when there are other kids there. Sigh. I just wish there were an easy answer.

I want Rob to change the service times, but I know that it will be met with resistance. But you know what? For a church that wants to be a place for young families to go to, an 11 am service time stinks. I hope we can do something about it. It just stinks that the priest's family is having to suck it up in the meantime...

Saturday, January 28, 2006

The children just keep growing. It's like Ruby is trying to catch up to Norah. Who, in turn, is trying to catch up to Isaac. Ruby at not quite 3 months, is bigger than Norah was at 7 month, and Isaac at 5. She's the fastest gowing baby I think I've ever seen. She even seems older than her age. She's so responsive to people, it's really lovely to watch.

But back to growing kids. I can't get I to try on clothes. I'm convinced that he's outgrown stuff, but can't manage to get it on him to see. I just want to do it in one sitting, try stuff on and see how it fits, but he is not to be convinced. Even if I'm right about what is too small, he's still got lots of clothes - especially navy pants. This kid could go for days on navy pants.

Today, I'm wishing I was in Vancouver. I want to go window shopping on Granville St or West 4th, take the kids to Granville Island, get a lovely latte and stroll around. I think I get nostalgic for Granville Island when Isaac needs a haircut. The kids salon there was so great, even if it was pricey. He really needs a haircut - in fact, he tells me that every morning.

Oh, and I'm getting an itch to dye my hair something bright and bold again. Any suggestions or ideas? Now to convince Rob...

Friday, January 27, 2006

rambly thoughts tonight

I should really be cleaning the kitchen right now, or doing laundry. But my brain is turning. I'm thinking about a birth control thread on GCM that's bugging me. I'm thinking about how messy my kitchen is. I'm thinking about how proud I am that Isaac pooped in the toilet today on his own.
Mainly though I'm thinking about me. The impact I may or may not be having on the world around me. My existance and how much it "is".

I have a good friend, and anytime we go somewhere, people recognize her. Seriously, everywhere we go (or used to, she and I don't live near each other right now). I never have that. In fact, I'm totally taken aback when someone recognizes me. Like I expect to fade into the background. As if I don't expect anyone to notice me at all. Strange.

When I was in high school, I went back to NS to visit a family friend. We had gone to school together in Quebec, and had since moved to NS to a town really close to where I had lived until grade 3. She was actually in the high school I would have attended had we not moved away years before. And funny enough, while I was there for 2 days, a girl I had been in kindergarten with called. Meghan said, "I wonder if you would remember the person who is at my house right now". And she did, and even said that a group of people had been talking about the "kids who left" and my name came up. That floored me. A good 8 years after I had moved away, someone remembered me.

So I guess people do remember me. But it seems strange that anyone should. That I should stick out enough for someone to take notice. I wonder what's with that, where my brain is, what's behind those thoughts. Do I not think I'm worthy enough to notice or remember. Do I just think I'm forgettable. I wonder what my issue is.

That's what I'm thinking about tonight. *shrug* kind of depressing actually.

I am woman...

hear my drill!

I bought a drill today. Can you believe we've been married almost 10 years and only just bought a power tool? But living so close to my dad, we had access to most tools. *blush*, but I usually just got my dad to do stuff for me. So now, we're on our own, in a house, we need power tools. So we have a drill. And it's great. I mounted the wall lamp (ikea, star one) in I's room today with it. I'm so proud of myself, I called my dad to brag. He's tickled pink. I guess this is what comes from marrying a man who has no mechanical inclination whatsoever, and is mostly brainy. :)

Oh, and it's my mom's birthday today. She bought herself something nice....a HOUSE! She's in Saskatoon right now, and bought herself a lovely little bungalow with a finished basement. Lots of space for us to come and visit...but not much yard to play in. But that's ok. She moves in March 15th. Only 6 weeks away.....woo hoo!

huge!

Rob was off in November, for Ruby's birth. He grew a beard again. I really missed it. When he got home yesterday, I realised just how huge it had gotten. Wow. Tickles my nose when we kiss.